Panicking

Let him be in deinal.. he will come round.. if you try and force him he will get resentful - give him time.. just like you need time too.. to get his head round the idea.. and he will appreciate it. It's a big thing to get your head around.. jumping from 1 to 2 kids. and yep, you can talk to us on here.
same with your mum.. she will get used to the idea.. i spose sometimes mum's want more for their daughters.. but what they don't realise it that nowdays as long as we put our hearts into it, we can be succesful mums as well as have careers etc. "baby making machine" though.. is a bit harsh.

We can't always plan these things, but in a few years time you will look back and wonder what you were so worried about.  You will be just fine.  A tip for when you take the next test - take it using your first pee in the morning.  It helps to give a clearer result if you are

All the best

I read part of these posts to my husband, and his response was "and baby making machine's a bad thing?"

In all seriousness, your mum will come round - and it's not like she's got any say in the matter anyway! Once your partner has got used to the idea, he'll be more supportive of you.

My partner had the same reaction with our first baby! and so did my mum now look at her shes the granny who has being putting all the post on here about her lovely granson haha. Hang in there things will sort there self out eventually. good luck

my partner left me wen i fell pregnant with our daughter but as soon as it came close to having her he started getting more interested after i had her he fell in love with her straight away and wouldnt change anything for the world now. im sure things will all work out for the best.they just need time well you do to
hang in there you will all get through it.
goodluck.

Rachel & Brianna

Nikki, you are allowed to be a little bitter - I was too, Kiya's biological father is also still in denial. Just remember, ladies, that this is their 2nd child, so there's a lot less chance that he'll leave! I'm sorry if I offend anyone, but us cynics must remember not everyone is going to go through all the crap we did.

I bet it won't be long before you come home, Toni, and your partner either tells you he was looking at baby stuff or has actually bought something!

Well I went to the doctor's today. He hasn't been able to confirm it yet I think because it is too early. When I got pregnant with Alex I found out at 4 weeks I just had a feeling the same with this one. My partner Spencer is still kinda shocked but I know he will be ok. I havn't told anyone else in the family because I have a history of miscarriage (two babies gone but not forgotten).
He loves Me & our son very much so I'm positive that he will be the same for our second baby. And if this is the one then it will be a lot earlier than planned!
I will keep you all informed if number two is on the way tho!
Thanks everyone for being oh so great

don't worry, i'm working on finding hannah a better daddy
still gotta do paternity test as well tho. somehow i don't think the test will make a difference with chris, but atleast he'll be forced by the IRD to be financially responsible for hannah.
the thing that sucks is that chris's family wants to meet hannah but can't while he doesn't want anything to do with her.

toni... glad everything is getting better! i think even your mum will come around... grandmothers always do

When Willie and I split up when Maya was 3 mths old he asked for a DNA test, but when I told him how much it cost he suddenly realised how much Maya actually looks like him
But as I said in another post, I have always been lucky that his family accept both Maya and I even when he was being a complete idiot. His sister even told me off for not bringing Maya to see them, and when I went to court for custody of Maya they were really supportive.

hehe i was quite glad when i had a girl... someone to be a man hater along with me!

well... i think it is time for me to tell my story... sorry toni, completely cahnged your topic to be all about me me me!

hannah's dad and i were never together - brief summer fling, all fun and games! i was really good friends with chris's little sister [that's how i knew him]. i found out i was pregnant at 16 weeks, i'd had an inkling i was pregnant but thought at the most i was 8 weeks. chris didn't take the whole pregnancy thing very well, being a free ranger and in that nasty boy stage of sleeping with whoever he could get his hands on (i wasn't sleeping with him by this stage!) his sister also took it very badly because she thought i wasn't taking the pregnancy seriously enough (i react really calmly to the craziest situations!) and when i decided to keep the baby they all went off their rockers and tried to tell me to get an abortion blah blah blah... i was at otago uni, so i'd been drinking before i found out (as you do at otago) and they pulled that one on me too "you are so selfish bringing a child into this world that might have fetal alcohol syndrome" etc etc but for some reason i didn't feel right abou thavign a termination, especially as it was so far through. (i had a week to make a decision about keeping the baby)

anywayyy... i'll skip the rest because i could go on forever... but i talked to pip (chris's sister) the other day and we kinda sorted things out between us. (her and chris don't talk anymore) and zoe (chris's mum) rang me after i talked to pip and told me how much she wanted to see hannah but didn't feel right abou tit until chris accepts that he is her father... which probably won't happen until after the paternity tests, if at all.

in the mean time i get to watch my lovely daughter grow up and even through all this crap, i know that i got the best end of the deal!