How old are you?

Hey, Kiya got called a boy even when she was dressed head-to-toe in pink! Comes from having very little hair, I guess.

Hi all

Im here, just hardly post as not so sure what to say, and ive got limited time when I get the chance to get on here, Kaylin must know its wake up time when mum wants some mum time!!

Kaylin was accused of being a girl when he was born I kinda thought it was his name but as he got older hes accused of being a boy..

Amy - I wanted to be sorted in my life before I had children, I wasent married but had set a date . My mum had me at 19 and I thought that was too early for me as I had other plans in mind then and I hadent met my now husband anyway..

Better suss out some tea..

I didn't plan to have Maya at 21, but I definitely don't regret it. It is hard sometimes financially, and I do have to work, but then I am not really a SAHM sort of person so I think even if I had been older when I had her I might still have chosen to go back to work and put her in part time care.
Getting pregnant and having Maya did put a huge strain on my relationship with Maya's dad, and we split up for 18 mths, but we are now back together and planning to get married, I think having her has made us both grow up a lot (and he is in his 40's so he should be well grown up by now lol).
I agree with Janine that one of the advantages is that by the time I am 40 my kid/s will be grown, but on the downside if Maya has a baby at the same age I did I will be a grandmother at 41!
Having Maya young has also made me decide that I don't want to have children after I'm 30. Not that I think there's anything wrong with that, just that I don't want to spend my 20's and my 30's raising babies. We haven't decided how many kids we want, but we've still got 5 1/2 years to get on with it!

Am I still classed as a young mum? (26) I sure feel young, compared to all of our friends we are young to have kids! We just felt it was the right time and thought it was silly to wait any longer although it did mean moving back to NZ from Europe and earning heeeeeeeaaaaaaaps less now than we did there. We weighed up the pros and cons and decided it would never be the "right time" and that being releatively young parents over here was much more important to us than saving lots of money and ending up having our first when I was way into my 30's. It has been really tough making the transition back to being here but, with only about 6 weeks to go we are ready for our "reward"!! LOL

Wow!! I'm 27 and was worried about telling my mum. thought she'd say I was too young!!!! For us, i feel now it was the right time, but at the time I felt we were too young. I thing just because our lifestyle was young, working, travelling, drinking, that kinda thing. Now it's park, travelling, changing nappies, baking!!!

It all depends on the individual I think. I was never the party type of a girl and I thought I did my share of traveling, parties and fun....
My hubby on the other hand was not ready to be a dad till end of last year when he said "we should start a family now huh?" (He will be 29 soon)

Mum had me when she was 19 and she will be a grandma at 47...she is very happy about that!

I always wanted to be a young mum....but plans changed along the way.

At the young age of 37 I became a grandmother. My son then 16 feared telling me, worried of the response. It was a shock admittedly, but then I thought about it more, and when my grandson arrived I was down to the hospital ASAP. I love being a grandmother, even though my son is not with his partner anymore, she has become an adopted daughter to me. Sadly she and my grandson Camron are living in Christchurch, me Invercargill. I miss them heaps.

My family have disowned me, because I left my abusive marriage, then went on to have an illigetimate child. I decided a long time ago, that I would not judge my children for their decisions, for their mistakes, but take them on in life. I know we grow from our lifes experiences, they are not the end of the world as some may proclaim.

Donna, thank you for sharing. I agree totally - I will never judge my daughter for the mistakes she makes in the way my parents judged me (and still do). When I got pregnant with Maya I told my Mum straight away, but I never told my Dad till I was 5 1/2 mths (they live in Australia). The night after he took my brothers to the local pub and cried his eyes out and ranted and raved about how I was ruining my life, and making racist comments about Willie and our baby.
Now that Maya is here he loves her to bits, but he is still really anti Willie. I haven;t told him that Willie and I are engaged, and he doesn't know that we are living together (we split up for 18 mths). Last week Dad and I had a big argument and I got to thinking, "I'm 24 years old, I have my own family,my own house, I pay my own bills, what gives him the right to decide what is or isn't right for me".
It's made me so much more determined to support Maya in her decisions, even if they aren't the right ones.

I'm a young Mum, though not on purpose!
I'm not giving up anything though, I figure Hannah will be the perfect buddy to have on my OE. Kids adjust to any situation they are put in.
I'd like to have somewhere stable by the time Hannah is starting school though. I remember my school days and loved the feeling of belonging, and knowing people throughout my childhood is so cool. I'm still friends with a lot of my primary school buddies!
I like the idea of being 40 when Hannah is 21, but then I'll probably ruin my freedom by having another kidlet. We'll see.

I love being a young mum!

I'm going to jump in late here.... I'm 27, hubby is 32 and our little boy will be one on Monday!! (wow- can't believe how fast the last year has gone). I know that in some people's eyes I was young to be getting married at 23 and having baby now, but it's right for us. We've chosen to have a family now, buy a house & build our business - will leave the travelling etc for later in life when we can enjoy it together
There is quite a 10-year age range in our coffee group, with me being the youngest, but I don't think you really notice.