same sex mummies to be

Hey I hardly come on here anymore because I'm in a Facebook due in group. Great to hear everything is going well :)

In nearly 19 weeks now. I've started to feel flutters but still waiting for a big strong kick so I can really know bubs is alright (man I worry a lot, guess this is only the beginning of that tho!!)

Is anyone in any same sex parents Facebook or real life groups?

And yes our scan is on 18September. I'm counting the days to see bubs again lol. My wife cried the first time!

Hi there everyone – I’ve really enjoyed reading back through all the supportive posts on this forum. My friend who is a midwife sent me the link to this, however it looks like I may have missed the boat with you guys not being so active on it anymore.. (I see the last post was last year).
I really need an outlet at the moment, so I’ll just write this and put myself and our story out there anyway. My partner and I of six years have been planning a family for the last year now. We’re getting there – we know all good things come, but at 32 (and in the ‘orange zone’ according to my AMH test) and my partner just turning 30 and wanting to have a baby down the track too, we are getting a little edgy not having found a donor dad yet.
I guess we were never really quite prepared for how difficult it would be. I remember the offers and promises from our male friends and acquaintances (admittedly after they had possibly had a wine or two ) thinking it was all good and funny to imagine at the time. At the back of our minds we thought that when the time came we would not be short on more serious offers, given our fairly wide circles. That was until the time did come! We carefully thought about and asked in total four of our male friends to be donors. One after the other after they all initially said ‘yes’ one of which even got to the clinic before they decided it was too hard/freaked out. Too many hang ups essentially.
Not wanting to make awkward or jeopardise any more r’ships wih guys we already know, we’ve gone online now on sites like NZ free sperm donation (which is free but not well regulated) and also an Aussie based site called worldwide sperm donations which has a monthly subscription fee of $35 but is worth it because of the large numbers of NZ profiles and is regulated in terms of the moderator deleting profiles that aren’t active and policing weirdos. We’ve had a bit of interest from some men but finding a guy in Auckland who is willing to go via our clinic, (Fertility Plus), and do the mandatory counselling session and the 4-5 donating sessions there has been hard. Even when we offer to pay all expenses!
We’re on the waitlist at the clinic but would preferably like to meet our donor dad face to face and for them to be willing to be known as donor dad to our bubbas as they grow. So we search on.. hoping to meet a kind and willing man who can take the time to do this for us. Its really encouraging to see so many of you on this forum have done this!
Our fertility councellor suggested advertising for a donor through a gay magazine that she had heard about (she’s not particularly knowledgeable about gay issues/things in Auckland – which is a slight problem in itself).. I have no idea what magazine she thinks she knows about.   I’ve only seen those dodgey street mags you pick up from family bar with all the pics of gay boys getting trashed and advertisements for sex toys throughout. Haha! Would be awesome if any of you guys knew.
Anyways thanks for reading! Hope to hear from someone (if anyone’s out there )
 x

I've just noticed perhaps there is also a group elsewhere
Now sorry been out of touch! Hope all the mummies
Have happy healthy babies :)) we are so pleased to be
Parents have a really fun time raising a daughter who is
Sitting unsupported now, about to start tasting solids, chatters
Away, is just beautiful! And full of life to wake up to every morn

P&G - any clue what the other group might be under?

C

Hi,

Other ladies are you on rainbow families on Facebook. Can be quiet but I has a good group of members

Good luck p&g, its a hard one to decide who will have the baby. I really wanted to but my eggs are rubbish so it didn't work, 3 failed rounds of IVF, wife got pregnant first round! Might try with her frozen embryo

Good luck, not long now

That's exciting! Congratulations!! When is she due? How old is your other child
We are also pregnant - my partner is carrying again :)
We are due Mid June 2015 so will have an 18 month
Gap between our two hopefully they will get along lol