The vent thread

That sounds like my MIL frankie.

And on the subject of MIL - stop being a jealous old bitch. We're not only entitled to have lives, we're entitled to live them the way we like, with the people we like.

OMG! Just stop taking things the wrong way already! Argh!!!

You are reading WAY too much into things and seeing things that are simply not there. You are going to make yourself miserable if you don't stop this crap!

Vent over

Some people are SO friggen upthemselves!!! Seriously get a life - everyone can see through you!

I f**king hate living here! Yes this move is great for your career, but I'm totally screwed over, can't work in my profession as there is an over supply in this city and jobs cuts too and no child care in this f**king part of this god forsaken city anyway. The wait lists are 20 families long. No friends, no family and it's cold so hard to get out when you don't have a car and there are only so many places to walk to. I'm lonely and have not spoken to a real life person other than you since last Wednesday before Easter and those are people weren't even friends just randoms who go to the local play group. The last 4 months have been my own personal hell, I'm starting to go grey, did I mention I'm so f**king angry , I would have never agreed to this move if I knew what I know now. All of this does not make me a good mum, I'm doing a sh*t job of that too, I don't know what to do to fill our days at home alone. And I'm finding it hard to cope with the toddler tantrums.

Edited by blueberry

Hugs here too. Where have you moved to? Is there a mum's and bub's group you can join to meet some other mum's? Hope things look up soon.

blueberry wrote: I f**king hate living here! Yes this move is great for your career, but I'm totally screwed over, can't work in my profession as there is an over supply in this city and jobs cuts too and no child care in this f**king part of this god forsaken city anyway. The wait lists are 20 families long. No friends, no family and it's cold so hard to get out when you don't have a car and there are only so many places to walk to. I'm lonely and have not spoken to a real life person other than you since last Wednesday before Easter and those are people weren't even friends just randoms who go to the local play group. The last 4 months have been my own personal hell, I'm starting to go grey, did I mention I'm so f**king angry , I would have never agreed to this move if I knew what I know now. All of this does not make me a good mum, I'm doing a sh*t job of that too, I don't know what to do to fill our days at home alone. And I'm finding it hard to cope with the toddler tantrums.

I know exactly how you feel

We moved. I left a job that I absolutely loved. Was supposed to be a great opportunity career-wise for the both of us. Instead, I have ended up a SAHM (something I never aspired to be longterm) and he is streaking ahead (promotions and awards) in his job. I try to feel happy that he loves his job and is doing so well. Sometimes I manage it. Other times, I just feel jealous and so f*cking angry all the time that I have made the sacrifices and have gotten nothing out of this move. I also would never have agreed to the move if I knew what I know now. We have agreed to stay here for another year as partner has another great promotion lined up for a months time. At the end of that year, it will have been three years since we moved. I don't know what I want anymore. If I choose to go with the same career as DP (what we originally planned), then I will be three years behind him and forever in his shadow. If I go back to the career that I have a degree for (we will have to move back to an area in which it is possible for me to do so), I will have been out of the workforce for three years and will essentially have to start back at the beginning.

I hate this.


Edited by Delli

If you are soooo sick you're going to complain all day don't come to work!!
If you feel you absolute must come in please don't stand coughing next to me all day and NOT put your hand over your mouth!!

Argh, what a crappy crappy crappy afternoon!!!!!!!!!!!!! My 2 year old decided not to have a nap today. Fine. But then don't be a grumpy tantrum throwing crying monster the rest of the day! Since he didn't sleep I let him watch Mickey Mouse for 20 min. MISTAKE. HUGE tantrum wanting MORE tv. I wanted to go shopping before his dentist appt at 3.15pm, but would he put some pants on? No. Would he do ANYTHING I ask - NO! Finally get him into the car, and FOOLISHLY think I can do the shopping in half an hour. I might have been able to do it, had it not been for the old couple taking FOREVER at the checkout. Who the hell pays by cheque these days??!!! Got to the dentist 15 min so appt gone, had to make another. Then late for my next appt at the Dr, while behind cars driving 25km an hour. WHYYYYY do you need to drive so slow?!!! Even if I have nowhere to be, you could drive NEAR the speed limit so the rest of us can get somewhere on time! Luckily Dr was running late. Get home and have to rush dinner as its already almost 5pm. I give in and let DS watch Jungle Junction for 20 min while I cook so I can do it in peace. Dinner cooked, tv goes off, and MASSIVE tantrum. Won't sit in his seat, won't do anything, just screams and cries. Eventually get him in to his seat and he barely eats. After dinner he cries because his toys are cooperating and it soooooooooo grinds on my nerves. Try to get him to bed early, but he procrastinates and plays up till I could scream

Oh and I have lost my sunglasses. Pregnancy/mummy brain can't remember for the life of me WHERE I have left them. Sooo angry

Hi Fairy1

TOTALLY TOTALLY understand the rant! Its amazing how a few of my friends manage to turn anything I say about myself into something about them and don't even listen to what I was initially talking about.

Take care :)

I asked mum to let you know about our 1st m/c and to explain that we were ok and to please not feel helpless living half way around the world. But after that you stopped emailing or sending photos of your son/our nephew.   
Recently you've had your new baby and still no real communication... the couple of times I have phoned and spoken to you you're just strange, no other word for it! When I spoke to your DW straight after your DS2 was born all she could say was how he was an ugly baby?! Was that supposed to make me feel better about you guys having him??! Mindblowing! I was expecting a exciting, cheerful catch up and instead I get that real doozy!
Why can't the two of you just act like normal? You are in constant contact with mum and dad, it hurts that you can't even just copy us in when you email them news and photos... you skype them every other weekend so I hear all your news second hand...you're our family idiot!
We've already lost enough without you guys cutting us off.   

Whew! Such relief offloading that lot!